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Our only reach was for the glass of hope that was centered between us. Parched of connection, we thirstily and desperately extended our tired hands, at first for each other and then for nothing. This is what it’s like to love a ghost. Our promised “could-be’s” pooled at the base of our icy foundations. We began to crumble. Those shared moments frozen in space and time were dissolving into the unreachable.

Gone. Forgotten.

This absent love had vanished into something we once called hope. Irrational idealism constructed itself into burdening expectations. I had no choice but to fail you. I chose to drink from your cup full of translucent emptiness. Oh! How my eyes strained to see the sweet liquid of your promises, your sticky web of forevers and always. I struggled to manifest an illusion into reality. I tried to see the man you presented to me on that first night so long ago. As if a dream, a string of stars would beam behind your twinkling grin every time time you called me beautiful. You illuminated my girlish daydreams. You carved my name into the moon; you told me it was mine. I believed you. You had me. I was yours. I folded into the comforts of an indolent love. You were someone then, I think. You were someone just for me. Now I chase the ghost of a love I’m not sure ever existed. You were my dream, and I slept nicely for some time.

I sometimes miss a smile I’m not sure was ever even mine. A smile that once looked sweet as honeysuckle but turned malicious with the setting of the sun. I lost myself in your vacancy. I craved your medicine, your attention. You made me need you. I let myself need you. I built a foundation within your void and floated aimlessly while you quietly whispered my way into complete obsession. Just like a fickle child having fought so hard to obtain an overvalued plaything, your pleasure was in the chase. “I got what I wanted and now I want something else.” The mantra of a broken man.

I didn’t fail you. You failed me. You failed yourself. I gave you the roadmap to my heart and you played illiterate. You created a shrine of me that existed only in yourself. Who was I to you and how did I not know her? I gave you most of me, the little morsels I had. I tried to fit your image of perfection despite every reason not to. My meek attempts to resolve an unsatisfactory love left me defeated. You left me without moving at all.

I could not let go. My fingers were trapped in memories of someone just like you. Nothing seemed real anymore.

But now I let go. Exhaustion released my tight grip and I watched you drift away into the sun, burned like Icarus in your selfish ambition. I finally heard the hatred in your tone. I finally felt the disdain for my existence within your realm. I finally climbed out from your dark abyss. Then I floated softly into the unknown. How blissful this world is without your angry stare. As with each passing cloud, I recognize the fleeting nature of your so-called commitments. I breathe in the release. And with each exhale, I say goodbye.

I don’t wish you the pain you couldn’t help but to give me. I wish only to release myself. I’ll carve my own name into the moon and call it mine. I need me and there isn’t room for you. May the stars guide you home, invisible lover. I think I loved you. I hope, one day, you love you too. TC mark

Source: https://thoughtcatalog.com/natasha-matlock/2019/08/what-its-like-to-love-a-ghost/

8 月 27 日下午,华米在北京举行年度新品发布会,正式带来包括 Amazfit GTS、Amazfit 智能运动手表 3 和它的精英版,以及概念腕表产品 Amazfit X 在内的多款新腕表产品。从 6 月以来,华米保持了每个月一场发布会的节奏,品牌布局和推进的势头可见一斑。

华米的成绩体现在数据上,发布会开始华米先分享了最近的成绩,今年第二季度华米营收超过 10 亿元,比去年同期增长了 36.6%,830 万台设备的出货量比去年同期更是增长了 53.7%。此外还有一个数据上的里程碑,华米设备的累计出货量已经突破了 1 亿台。


这次发布的第一款新品是 Amazfit GTS,这是继 GTS 后的又一个全新系列产品,它采用方屏设计,1.65 英寸 AMOLED 显示屏有着 348 x 442 像素的分辨率,显示精度达到 341ppi,整体能比同直径圆形屏幕显示更多的信息,华米也因此为它专门准备了自定义模块表盘,用户可以自定义显示时间、天气、时间和运动数据等信息,此外各种表盘设计自然也少不了。






使用当中,采用航空级铝合金材质的 Amazfit GTS 重量只有 24.8g,非常轻巧,厚度也只有 9.4mm——以它 46 天基础手表模式或者 25 小时 GPS 模式的续航能力来说,这个厚度控制已经非常得体。在此基础上,GTS 内置了 BioTracker PPG 高精度生物追踪光学传感器、气压传感器、电容传感器、6 轴加速度传感器、3 轴地磁传感器、环境光亮度传感器等 6 个专业传感器,还有 GPS + GLONASS 双星定位系统并内置 NFC 芯片,后者实现了对全国 255 个城市的公交和地铁刷卡,此外门禁卡等功能也能一并实现。





此外,比如 24 小时不间断高精度心率监测、运动时的心率区间监测、支持心律不齐(含房颤)AI 自动甄别等,这些专业健康功能都是我们选择华米设备的理由,这些体验在 GTS 上也都一一具备。最终公布的 GTS 的价格是 899 元,这介于了之前 GTR 的 42mm 和 47mm 两个版本之间。


第二款新品 Amazfit 智能运动手表 3 包括了标准版和精英版两个版本,它们的功能和配置基本一致,区别在于腕表和表带的材质——精英版采用了钛合金材质表盘搭配蓝宝石屏幕,同时还有氟橡胶表带,无论是质感、强度还是贴肤的感受都有了加强。




而就腕表本身的功能来说,Amazfit 智能运动手表 3 采用了 1.34 英寸 Full Moon Display 全圆反射式显示屏,不仅屏幕尺寸更大,并且是以超低功耗来进行常亮显示,而且在日常使用当中,周围光线环境越强,屏幕的显示效果会越清晰,这对于运动手表在户外、阳光下的场景来说更加合适。而同样考虑到高强度运动的使用,手表在表圈上专门设计了 4 颗物理按键,大运动量下手上出汗,或者激烈运动中用屏幕触摸操作不方便时,用物理按键操作会更加直接简单。




Amazfit 智能运动手表 3 算是集合了华米目前在智能、健康、运动等多个方面最完善的技术和配置。它兼容 GPS、GLONASS、北斗、Galileo 四种不同的卫星定位系统,加上海拔计、气压计、指南针等功能,使用时可以确保定位速度和运动轨迹的精度,并且能在不同的户外项目上提供针对性的工作模式,包括电池续航也能对应进行优化——最高到 70 小时的省电 GPS 模式,这个时间表现也是非常漂亮。


它同样内置 BioTracker PPG 来实现 24 小时日常心率监测,并且强调精准性“可媲美专业的运动心率带”,并且它还具备了高心率报警和心率区间值查看功能,运动中可以更直观地关注自己的心脏状态。同时这次在 Amazfit 智能运动手表 3 还加入了 FIRSTBEAT 专业运动算法,不仅对用户运动情况的分析更加专业和科学,通过对心率等环节的监测,这套算法还能在用户运动当中即时提醒用户调整运动状态,实现更好的运动效果。



它也同样内置了 NFC,公交地铁、门禁卡模拟、支付宝离线支付等等都能实现。它的标准版和精英版的价格分别是 1299 元和 1699 元,此外一并亮相的还有一个《星球大战》系列的限量版,包括表盘、不锈钢表圈、表带乃至包装和纪念品等都采用了星战元素设计,尤其对于星战粉丝来说这会很值得留意。








这次华米还介绍了一款概念设计,这其实算是这场发布会的“One More Thing”,这款名叫“Amazfit X”的新品用了 2.07 英寸柔性曲面屏的设计,同时腕表整体也随着曲面屏做了弧度设计,并且顺带舍弃掉了物理按键,而通过在 316L 不锈钢金属表身上以按压的方式来实现操作。此外除了屏幕和表身都做成了曲面,包括内部的主板也采用了三段式设计,220mAh 的锂电池也进行了弯曲设计——同时也仍然实现了 7 天的续航时间






这款概念腕表计划会在 2020 年上半年发布,这个时间也并不太久了,而其它两款腕表从 27 日发布的当天已经开始了预订。在这一波发布之后,华米在智能腕表和手环两大穿戴设备上的产品线已经非常齐整。


Source: http://www.toodaylab.com/77489

1. It’s always difficult to share my problems with them because they also had that same problem at some stage of their life and it was much harder for them than it is for me apparently.

2. It’s interesting really. My mom died recently. When I called my sister to come down the day before she died she said, “I thought she was going to die today. I’m not disappointed, but I can’t keep missing work.”

The next day I called her to come to the hospital again as the doctor and I made the decision to take her off the ventilator. On the phone she said, “Well, can we pull out the tube as soon as I get there because I have plans tonight?”

She also proceeded to ask me for rent money that day, as I also live with her.

The things they say, and don’t realize how messed up it is is really baffling.

3. My daughter was hit by a drunk driver when she was 12 and nearly died. She was in a coma for two weeks and I was there all day every day, except to go home to shower and change. My sister decided that when I was at the hospital was the perfect time for her and her druggie girlfriend to jimmy the sliding door off the track, break in and steal everything she could find–jewelry, my camera, and yes, my daughter’s piggy bank.

The bitch stole the piggy bank from a comatose kid.

4. When I was 10, my mom put a lock on my door because my brother started threatening to kill me and my mom in the night. When I was 14, he fixated on my mom and threatened to burn down our house, shoot my whole family, and steal all the valuables and drive away. That same year, (he was 17), he took our car and ran away from home for two weeks. We ended up calling the police on him. When he came home, the police decided that it would be best if he lived somewhere else so he did. As we were cleaning out his room we found hundreds of knives, a hand gun, lighter fluid, gasoline and lighters.

5. Oh god where do I begin. She fed my hamster to our cat because I wouldn’t let her name it. She woke me up when I was sleeping in my mom’s bed by punching me and then proceeded to break my index finger with the door when I fought back just because she wanted to sleep there that night. She also poured bleach over my clothes because she was mad that I was doing laundry when she needed to. Honestly there’s a whole lot more but those are some of the major things.

6. She threatened to self-harm because there was a miscommunication over what my parents would give her boyfriend – now husband – for Christmas.

7. My twin sister is a narcissist along with being psychologically, physically, and verbally abusive in general. She has:

– Told me she wished my host family would murder me (I was on foreign exchange).

– Told me that I’m worthless and she should have killed me in the womb.

– Gone through all my things to the point where I have to take 20+ pictures of my room every time I leave the house so I know if she’s touched my stuff.

– Read all my diaries, and once stole an incriminating one and gave it to my social worker to keep me in the mental institute longer.

8. My sister, who is 8 years older than me, chased 6 year old me around the house with a knife so I would leave her alone… because she was babysitting while my parents were on a date… and I needed food…

9. My sister is way too into herself. She has no real friends but she has like 60 thousand Instagram followers. She literally just spends her money on new clothes and the newest iPhone to take selfies. And when I say she has no real friends I really mean it, she never leaves the house, never had a job, dropped out of high school. But she thinks she’s the greatest thing god graced this planet with. I don’t really talk to her because anytime I try she’s just taking pictures of herself with different outfits. It’s really annoying, I don’t know why my parents condone/finance this lifestyle.

She gets it from my mom, she’s kind of the same way.

10. My sister broke my mom’s arm just because she was trying to get a toaster out of the cabinet. I really don’t understand why that was such a big deal to her. Also when my mom was sick she threatened to pour hot coffee on her if she didn’t get out of bed and do shit for her that she could have easily done herself. She also would hit the pets for no reason and talked about murdering strangers because she thought it would be fun. I finally got her out of here and away from us about a month or so ago but it was long overdue, as she is currently 31 years old. There’s a lot more shit but yeah I’m just glad she’s finally gone. I still have nightmares about her.

11. One of my older siblings killed his neighbor’s cat because the cat would come in to his yard. So one day he trapped the cat and put him in a sack and beat it with a bat. At the time I was 15 and idolized him so I didn’t know the severity of what he did. He’s killed other animals, he took another neighbor’s dog and dumped him in town 50 miles away just because the dog would bark sometimes.

He’s an evil sadistic asshole. But tell that to my parents and other siblings and they defend him to the end.

12. One time, I didn’t order my sister a pizza, and she locked me out of the house for the rest of the day.

Another time, she asked me to make her a sandwich which I then forgot to put cheese on and she screamed, “You did this just to fuck with me!” Then beat me up.

13. Oh boy, my big sis kicking down door frames because she “had something inside,” strangling my little sisters, picking up knives to threaten my mom and young kids, smashing furniture, pouring juice in gas tanks, breaking my brother’s nose and always begging, borrowing, and leeching. And somehow they always “deserved it.”

14. Nothing is ever their fault, it’s always yours.

15. My entire childhood my sister would manipulate me and anyone else she could. Had a baby when she was a teen, so I “babysat”. I was seven years younger, and basically raised her first two kids.

She would move across country at the drop of a hat, upending her kids lives numerous times. All of her kids had different dads. She’s been married 3 times.

Our mother almost died a few years ago, and she made the whole thing about her.

Her kids don’t even talk to her anymore. They are all adults now, and I’m their support system.

I own the house our mother lives in, and she tells me everything I should do for our mom and fix the house. I pay the mortgage, I buy her groceries, I make sure she gets to the doctor, but that isn’t enough for my sister. Does she offer any support? Nope, just criticism.

She gives me endless shit about how I bought a nice house for my family when our mom’s house needs a new roof. Told her if she pays for it, I’ll get it fixed. She says she can’t afford it. Yeah? Me neither.

Since the beginning of the year, she got hooked on drugs, left her husband (who should have been the best thing to ever happen to her, he’s great). She’s attempted suicide and tried to say it’s everyone else’s fault. She was in a psych ward for hallucinations and hearing voices. Again, it’s everyone else’s fault.

I haven’t seen her since the holidays last year and I plan to keep it that way.

16. I’m pretty big, but my older brother is huge and burned my face in a fire simply because I was playing with his toy.

We haven’t spoken in a long while, but I’m sure one day we will run into each other again.

17. I caught my younger brother catch a mouse kill it himself and feed it to his snake. One time when he broke his arm climbing over a fence instead of screaming in agony he laughed crazily.

18. When we were younger, we had no heat and he would come into my room and take my covers. I was too small to fight back so I’d just lay there and freeze all night. He’d threaten me that he’d hurt me if I told our mom.

As we got older, he became a drug addict. He would steal my mom’s pain medication and anxiety medication so he could get high. If my mom had any money, he’d steal it from her. He used to steal her car but she wouldn’t do anything because she didn’t want him in jail.

After my mom died, he broke into our house and stole several of our things. The cops said they could do nothing about it.

He got all his kids taken away because he and his baby momma were doing meth while she was breastfeeding and their baby almost died. He still says that his kids shouldn’t have been taken away. He seriously doesn’t understand. He actually said to my dad, “She just smoked a little bit. I don’t know what the big deal is!” They are about to have another baby.

I hate him and want nothing to do with him. We are half siblings. Our older brother, who was his full sibling, died earlier this year and I constantly wonder why it was him and not my awful brother. I don’t even consider him family anymore.

19. My sibling is not a sociopath or psychopath, but is narcissistic with extreme anger issues. He would intentionally start arguments. The slightest response from me would be his excuse to go mental. Worst was once when he choked me after I tried to defend myself, only stopped because I threatened to call the cops. Later my dad sided with him saying I shouldn’t have made my brother angry, and that if I did call the cops, they’d laugh at me and would do nothing. That’s idiotic, obviously. Bear in mind my brother was 6’1 and athletic, while I was a skinny 5’4 teenager that was 5 years younger. I’m now an adult and in the military, and don’t plan on talking to either of them much after I leave.

Needless to say if he ever tries something like that again, he’ll be lucky if he isn’t hospitalized. Count on it.

20. My dad is as much of a narcissist as it gets. I didn’t realize that it was abnormal until I moved out of the house and out of state. When I finally came back I remember him calling me one day to tell me to give him $10 because he claimed he need to grab something to eat.

“Sorry but I don’t have $10 to give you.”

“You don’t have $10 to give your dad? Come on I’ll pay you right back I just need it to go down to the store so I can eat.”

“I don’t have it, so you’ll have to put on your big boy pants and make some money for yourself.”

“Well I was gonna ask your sister, but I don’t wanna ask her because she’s my daughter, ya know?”

I hung up after that. A few minutes later he calls me and says, “Hey your sister just sent me the $10, see it wasn’t that hard.”

21. I’m not even totally sure of my older brother’s diagnosis but several years ago I found out through his journal that he had an elaborate plan to murder me and had apparently attempted to before, but couldn’t go through with it. His reasoning was mostly because I was mean to him as a child, but really he was the one cruel to me?? The part that really fucks me up is that both my parents knew about his wish to kill me and never said anything to me, let us sleep under the same roof. They always coddled and treated him differently than me. He is severely mentally ill, likely a psychopath, has been in a mental hospital now for several years. I cut contact with my parents as soon as I moved out.

22. My sister has dialed down her act a bit, after we have all spent a few years out of our raging NPD asshole father’s house. I mostly remember a MASSIVE sense of entitlement that simply made no logical sense and would require a great deal of cognitive dissonance to explain. Like, she would never loan me things (CDs, etc.), but had no problem walking straight into my room, in front of my face, to take a bottle of body lotion to use on herself. She seemed to have no remorse for what her behavior did to others, so long as she got what she wanted out of the deal. Sometimes, she would just do and say mean and spiteful things for no reason.

I talk to her from time to time. While is less of a self-involved sociopath, she still is insufferably self-righteous.

23. Brother was doted on as a child because he was gifted at basketball. Literally had no consequences growing up and could do whatever he wanted. Treated me and our parents like absolute crap and they still doted on him, while I would get the belt for the most benign and asinine stuff. My brother’s life is absolute crap right now, he has no sense of self-worth and just gets hand outs from my parents. He is in his late thirties and my parents are giving him money for rent and food. He wants everyone to feel sorry for him and expects everything to be handed to him. He can’t do anything on his own and guilt trips and manipulates my parents into doing whatever it is he needs doing for him or just giving him extra funds. He has no incentive to change and is content playing video games all day while my parents just enable his lifestyle. At holidays he just talks down to me and tries to make me feel bad about how ‘difficult’ his life is. I could care less about him and have no desire to talk to him until he makes some serious changes in his lifestyle and life choices.

24. Growing up, she had total control of my life. She criticized what I wore, listened to, ate, everything. If I was different I was weird, if I liked what she liked then I was copying her. She tried to scare me multiple times with guns and knives, claiming she never would actually hurt me but she would hold up a samurai sword to my throat and tell me if I moved I died.

Eventually she had at kid when she was 19 and I was 16, and for a year she was a good mother and then decided she didn’t want to be a mom anymore. I’ve seen her ruin countless people’s lives, spanning from just stringing them along to draining their bank accounts to contributing to them being put in jail for domestic abuse (she’s still waiting for trial on her charge). I despise her and she is not family to me. I had so many issues growing up that only stemmed from things she did to me and I don’t want to see my niece grow up like that. My parents are doing a wonderful job of raising her but she doesn’t understand why mommy isn’t there and it breaks my heart.

25. They’re insane, and always mad about something petty. Somehow everything is related to their projected social image, regardless of context or content.

26. I haven’t spoke to my brother in 3-4 years. Last time I did he went after my wife and that was the last straw for me. Since then, my parents have cut him off, he lost his job, and his life has spiraled. Not sure what he is up to now but my quality of life has improved with him not in it.

27. Lived an entire lifetime not being aware that it isn’t normal to run to your bedroom and hide when dad gets home. That it isn’t normal to be scared of your parents reactions to, well, anything.

Becoming a mom and having little kids that I just looked at and knew… I could never beat them up for picking a flower, or shame them for not knowing how to hang a shelf, or throw grubs at them if they come outside, or throw potato salad at them if they say they don’t want any. It wasn’t normal and only just now am I realizing all of that.

28. She called the cops and CPS, repeatedly accusing our step-dad of child abuse. It usually lined up with her having rules and punishments. She didn’t like that my parents did research on how to raise a psychopath that doesn’t become a murderer, they suddenly knew all her tricks and tactics. I sometimes think about how sad it must be to be physically incapable of feeling human emotions, but it clearly would only hold her back.

29. They can make drama out of any situation and will try to drag you into it even years later.

Example: I am the next to youngest. My whole family is a shit show, but when I was planning my wedding, I was still trying to pretend I had a reasonable family. My future husband’s family was like Leave it to Beaver.

So I asked both of my sisters to be bridesmaids. I knew this was a risk, but I hoped they could keep their shit together for a single evening. At the time, I thought they had.

About 8 years later, we were in the same city because one of our brothers was in the hospital due to a bad car accident. We had one hotel room across the street from the hospital so people could go rest when they needed to.

I was in that room with my oldest sister when she said, “You know {middle sister} stole wine glasses from your wedding, right?” I told her I didn’t care.

A couple of hours later, I was in that room with my middle sister. She said, “You know {older sister} stole glasses from your wedding, right?” I also told her I didn’t care.

So here we are, waiting to see if our brother was going to die and both of these bitches are playing reindeer games with me, trying to make me be angry with the other one.

Our brother lived. I’ve cut contact with all my siblings because they are all like this. They have to start shit no matter what the situation or consequences.

30. When she threw a cup of hot tea at my face because I refused to show her something on the computer. Or the time when she yelled at me for over an hour because I was really sick and had thrown up all over the bathroom sink. The same bathroom she had just cleaned.

I stopped speaking with her over 7 years ago.

31. Brother believes the world is his oyster and that friends and family and loved ones are his to control and exploit.

He told a girl they are dating and she should buy him a car and take him out for dinner.

Brother has also tried to burn down our childhood home thrice because mom didn’t give him the things he wanted, we were poor and he knew that but he honestly believes that he gets what he wants because that’s how it should be.

He also tried to sell my car, he still hounds me for the money he should have gotten if he sold it.

32. My sister has never been diagnosed with narcissism or a personality disorder other than OCD, but when we were younger she often enjoyed telling people before I met them that I had a “difficult relationship with the truth” so that they wouldn’t want to be around me. I had the reputation of a liar and no friends for most of my preteen years, and she was popular in our homeschool group until she left and got into high school. After she left, I still didn’t have friends, but neither did she, and she blamed me for it during her frequent temper tantrums. She would throw things, scream, cry, and threaten me with kitchen knives on a pretty regular basis. All of a sudden, the year that I turned 17 and she turned 21, the tantrums stopped and she got engaged. He moved in with us, the tantrums started again, and for once I wasn’t the target. The worst fight they had happened when she caught him looking at a photo of a bikini model, which she considered cheating. She hit him full force with an open palm, and when our mum saw, she threatened to kick her out if she hit him again. They got married, moved out, and divorced within a year of him enlisting in the army.

33. I was playing with a suitcase while watching TV. I was small enough to fit myself in it. My brother, nearly four and a half years older than me, saw what I was doing and asked to zip me up in it. After already having learned to never trust him, I asked Mom to watch us to make sure he didn’t do anything stupid.

He zipped me up inside the suitcase and started carrying it in a shuffle-step.

Thump. Thump. Thump.

I heard the sliding door to the enclosed patio open, Mom started screaming and I could hear her slapping my brother repeatedly. The suitcase fell over onto its side with me still in it.

I managed to pry open the zippers from the inside and got myself out of the suitcase as quickly as possible. Mom was still slapping at my brother, screaming, “Why?!

I was two feet away from being dumped inside a suitcase into the family hot tub.

He laughed and said that I would have floated, what’s the big deal?

So, yeah, that’s what it was like growing up with a sociopath. TC mark

Source: https://thoughtcatalog.com/january-nelson/2019/08/33-families-describe-their-experience-with-narcissists-psychopaths-and-sociopaths/


You don’t watch him move on. You delete him from every form of social media immediately.


You cyber stalk his new girlfriend and make comparisons, wondering what he sees in her.


You like pictures of him and his new girlfriend in order to create the illusion you couldn’t care less about him moving on.


You’re happy for him. You want what’s best for him, even if it means living without you.


You make fun of his new girlfriend every chance you get. It doesn’t matter who she is, because you feel like he downgraded.


You try to make him as jealous as he’s making you by posting pictures with other guys.


You get genuinely concerned for the new girl he’s with. You hope he doesn’t hurt her as badly as he hurt you.


You get drunk and rant to your friends about how he’s moved on way too quickly.


You sleep with as many people as possible in order to forget about him.


You still keep in contact with him, secretly hoping he’ll leave her for you.


You feel like complete and utter shit. You wonder why he was able to find love again when you’re still alone.


You cry every time you see a picture of them together. TC mark

Source: https://thoughtcatalog.com/january-nelson/2019/08/how-each-zodiac-handles-watching-their-ex-move-on/

Sometimes, you’re the toxic one. Sometimes, instead of assigning the blame to the people around you or the universe in general, you have to take responsibility for your own actions. You have to look in the mirror and realize you haven’t been acting your best lately, you haven’t been reaching your full potential.

This doesn’t mean you should start hating yourself for everything you’ve done wrong. It doesn’t mean you should mope about what a screwup you are either. It only means you should work on ways to alter your behavior.

Even though you might get upset when you realize you’ve been in the wrong, it’s actually a good thing when you see your toxic traits. The first step toward change is recognizing there’s a problem. Once you know there’s something about yourself that needs improvement, you can start working toward bettering yourself. You can take the necessary steps to turning yourself into a more well-rounded person.

Sometimes, you’re the one who needs to change, even though you have a hard time seeing it. It’s so much easier to blame the world for your problems, to blame other people for your problems, to blame circumstances for your problems. But sometimes, you’re part of the problem.

If you throw your phone across the room because someone makes you angry, you can blame them for your anger. But you can only blame yourself for your reaction to your anger.

To put it simply, you might not be able to control the way you feel when someone hurts you, but you have complete control over the actions you take in response to those feelings. You have more power than you let yourself realize.

Although it’s never a bad idea to work on yourself, you should be doing it because it’s what you want to do, not because someone else has convinced you there’s something wrong with you, not because someone else has insisted you’re the problem.

Sometimes, toxic people refuse to take responsibility for their actions. Sometimes, they will manipulate you into feeling like you’re the one who needs to change, even though they have been the source of drama.

You shouldn’t blindly listen to anyone else when they say you’re too emotional, too weird, too crazy. They might be covering for themselves. They might be trying to turn the situation around to blame you so they don’t have to bother to reflect on themselves.

Sometimes, they might be the real problem. Other times, you both might be a problem. You both might need to work on yourselves. You might both have faults you should work toward changing.

It’s easy to act like your own worst enemy, but it’s dangerous to assume there are a million things wrong with you — and it’s also dangerous to assume you’re perfect. You have to be self-aware. You have to realize you have good traits and bad traits, weaknesses and strengths. You have to realize there are beautiful things about you, and things you could benefit from changing. TC mark

Source: https://thoughtcatalog.com/holly-riordan/2019/08/sometimes-youre-the-one-who-needs-to-change/

When you find your forever person before you’re ready to settle down, you come to a crossroads. You can either choose to commit to them and squash your desire to see the world, see other people, see what you can accomplish while you’re still wild and free — or you can choose to give this person up, to break a heart, to walk away from them because the timing isn’t right.

When you find your forever person before you’re ready to settle down, there’s no winning. You’re either going to stay single and wonder whether you made a mistake by abandoning someone who fit you perfectly. Or you’re going to get into a serious relationship and wonder whether you made a mistake by settling down too soon.

When you find your forever person before you’re ready to settle down, you have to be careful. You don’t want to jump into a relationship you’re not ready for and end up hurting the other person. But you don’t want to run away on a whim and end up hurting yourself either. You have to stop and think for a moment. You have to weigh the pros and cons of each option. You have to decide what is best for yourself at this moment in time.

When you find your forever person before you’re ready to settle down, it’s hard to complain to anyone about what you’re going through because they wouldn’t understand. Most people are worried they’re going to find their forever person too late — or won’t find them at all. You don’t want to whine about something so many other people would die to have, but you can’t help how you feel either. You can’t magically make yourself have a change of heart.

When you find your forever person before you’re ready to settle down, it can feel like the world is moving too fast. It can feel overwhelming. It can feel like you’re skipping ahead to your adult life without having time to really experience your youth. It can feel like you’re leaping toward a milestone ahead of schedule, before you’re fully ready.

When you find your forever person before you’re ready to settle down, you have to remember you’re in charge of your own destiny. If you aren’t ready for a relationship right now, you’re under no obligation to enter one. Even if you decide to commit to someone, that doesn’t mean you have to get married right away or have children right away. You can set your own pace. You can take your time. You don’t have to rush.

When you find your forever person before you’re ready to settle down, you have a tough decision to make. You can either miss out on the chance to commit to someone special or you can miss out on the chance to explore the world on your own. You have to decide what means the most to you. You have to decide which regret you would rather live with in the end. TC mark

Source: https://thoughtcatalog.com/holly-riordan/2019/08/when-you-find-your-forever-person-before-youre-ready-to-settle-down/

Yes, when you find the right person, commitment seems a lot less scary. You’ll stop feeling the need to raise your guard and run away during the tiniest arguments. You’ll stop believing you’re better off alone than in a relationship with someone who truly loves and values you. You’ll stop trying to self-sabotage.

But your growing comfort with the idea of commitment doesn’t mean your fear of commitment is going to magically disappear as soon as you find your forever person.

Even when you’re with the right person, you could have doubts. Even when you’re with the right person, you could be afraid of moving forward, moving in together, getting married, having kids, building a future.

You have to give up the idea that your fright automatically means you’re in the wrong relationship. Sometimes your gut gives you warnings because you’re in a toxic situation — but other times, your gut is only upsetting you because you’re experiencing something new and change is always scary.

Just because you’re afraid of reaching the next milestone doesn’t mean you’re with the wrong person.

If you’ve been scared of commitment all your life, your mindset isn’t going to magically change. Your past experiences aren’t magically going to disappear. You’re still going to have some of the same fears. You’re still going to be timid about the idea of spending forever with one person.

You shouldn’t let anyone convince you that you must not be with the right person if you have a single doubt about them. You shouldn’t let anyone tell you you should be 100% sure about your person, otherwise your relationship is a sham.

You’re allowed to have doubts. You’re allowed to wonder whether you’re making the right decision. You’re allowed to think about all the ways the relationship might go wrong. You’re allowed to be human.

Wondering whether you’re ready to commit to someone doesn’t make you a bad girlfriend. And that doesn’t mean your partner is a bad boyfriend. It simply means you’re human.

You’ve been in bad relationships in the past, so it’s natural for you to wonder whether something is going to go wrong in this one too. You’ve had bad taste before, so it’s natural to worry you’re falling down the same path without realizing it. These types of thoughts are okay.

Your fear of commitment isn’t going to go away overnight. But if you’re with the right person, you’re going to have an easier time getting comfortable with the idea of forever. You’re going to slowly ease into your commitment at a pace that makes you feel safe.

It’s dangerous to assume a person isn’t right for you unless you’re a million percent positive they’re your soulmate. When you find someone who makes you happy, it doesn’t matter if you have doubts about whether your relationship will last until death do you part. All that matters is whether you want to try to make it work, whether you have faith your person isn’t going to hurt you, whether you’re ready to commit for the first time in your life. TC mark

Source: https://thoughtcatalog.com/holly-riordan/2019/08/your-fear-of-commitment-wont-magically-go-away-when-you-find-the-right-person/

Blue Bottle Coffee 开始招聘香港岗位

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目前 Rothy’s 早秋系列已经登陆品牌官方微信小程序商城和天猫,有兴趣的同学可以留意。


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